The problem is that if you reveal everything about yourself or it\u2019s discoverable with a Google search, you may be diminished in your capacity for intimacy. This goes back to social penetration theory, one of the most cited and experimentally validated explanations of human connection. Developed by Irwin Altman and Dalmas A. Taylor in the 1970s, the theory holds that relationships develop through gradual and mutual self-disclosure of increasingly private and sensitive personal information.<\/p>\n
\u201cBuilding and maintaining an enduring, intimate relationship is a process of privacy regulation,\u201d said Dr. Altman, now an emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Utah. \u201cIt\u2019s about opening and closing boundaries to maintain individual identity but also demonstrate unity with another, and if there are violations then the relationship is threatened.\u201d<\/p>\n
Thought of another way, information about yourself is like currency. The amount you spend on a person signifies how much you value the relationship. And that person compensates you in kind. That\u2019s why it feels like theft when someone tells your secrets or data miners piece together your personal history \u2014 using your browsing habits, online purchases and social networks \u2014 and sell it. And it\u2019s also why if you\u2019re profligate with information about yourself, you have precious little to offer someone really special.<\/p>\n
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